Cause to feel upset, annoyed, or resentful.
A person who indulges in hypocrisy.
The practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one’s own behavior does not conform; pretense.
Definitions for those who decide to argue with me in the comments. Let’s be at least on the same page to start out with.
For those World of Warcraft players living under a rock, there was a large “scandal” involving Blizzard and a character named Jii Firepaw. He said some shit and it made people upset, so blizzard changed it. I didn’t care. I didn’t care it was offensive and I didn’t care that it was changed to be less offensive. What I do care about is the backlash to these women’s opinion; the people who were offended that they were offended.
As always when a minority speaks out, whether that be transgender, homosexuals or feminists, those more concerned with their own comfort than the message being presented flipped their shit. Messages like the following popped up everywhere:
I see some of these same players tweeting that someone harassed them in RL while walking down the street, at work, said something rude, made a grab at them, etc. I have never personally done this, nor ever witnessed any male or female in my presence ever do anything beyond give a “check them out” look. I bet if I merely walked by some of these people perhaps held the door for them and said “Hi, nice day isn’t it” they’d scream “PERV WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO MARGINALIZE ME?!” Um, I was being nice and making conversation…but ok.
I won’t even start in on the idiocy of such statements. I will point out that this criticism has nothing to do with the issue at hand, but is a common knee jerk reaction some men have whenever they hear the word “sexism.” Unfortunately, some feminists have their own knee jerk reactions that boils down to: if you’re not offended with me, you’re a horrible, terrible person and insist they’re speaking for “all women.”
And that’s where the beginnings of my rage starts. Ceraphus, of The Sundering podcast got tired of that argument, as most people who just don’t give a fuck are likely to be, and wrote a blog saying as much. Towards the end, his message gets a little lost when he discusses how he wants diverse characters who are sexist and says incidents like the Jii Firepaw dialogue are “minor infractions.” Immediately the feminists were all over him, missing the entire message of his blog and honing in on the parts where the meaning could be interpreted in a way that had nothing to do with Ceraphus’ point. On this part, Oestrus said it best in her blog:
We have become so wrapped up in drawing our battle lines, in giving certain words or phrases so much power over us that we have forgotten what goes into those words to trigger these responses in us. We have stopped asking people what they mean when they do or say things and we just take these words or these actions at face value. In the rare occasions where someone is asked what they meant by something they did or said, it’s very likely that the person who is asking the question already has their mind made up and there is nothing that the person on the receiving end of the question can do to change their minds. They have already decided that this person has done wrong and they are basically just asking for clarification to drive their point home. They have no intention of giving this person the opportunity to clear the air or to right a perceived wrong.
Rightly so, Ceraphus was pissed about the personal attacks that came from the feminists and decided to make it a discussion topic on his podcast. The discussion started and ended with insults of those who called for Jii Firepaw to have his dialogue changed and everyone being offended at the people offended. The comments came mostly from the listeners, not from the hosts, but in the end, they did agree with these people. The message ended up coming across as, “If you don’t like it, tough and shut up because I’m not bothered by it.” They told those who were offended to seek help, without knowing if they already were trying to get help, or with much sympathy for why people could be offended by this one line. Instead, they were insisting that these feminists should deal with their feelings because they should never have been insulted in the first place, that they should have kept quiet so they can have a diverse, sexist character to make the World of Warcraft more realistic.
But why? Why does it matter so much if these people care that a dialogue offended them? It was one line. It does not affect me in any way if that one line is offending or if it’s being changed. One line of dialogue does not form a character’s personality, it does not craft a story, it does not change who Jii Firepaw is. The leader of the Horde Pandarens made one sexist comment and that does not make him sexist. Blizzard did not have to go through and change all his lines, just one. So how can anyone say he was meant to be a diverse, sexist, flawed character in the first place?
Llandrywyn on the MMOC forums said:
“If a character can be conveyed in the same terms, for the same overall feeling and with the same overall character traits, is it not just good and respectful practice for the designers to minimize content that might offend?”
Besides that, what is wrong with being respectful of other’s views, whether or not we agree with them? Not everyone arguing for a change insisted they had to be agreed with. They didn’t all call Ceraphus names and tell him he was horrible for not caring about this sexist comment. Oestrus said it best, “If I have to respect someone’s right to be offended, then they have to respect my right to not be offended. That’s all I’m saying.”
And that’s all I’m saying! Stop caring about other people caring! If you are bitching about the people who are bitching, you’re a hypocrite, plain and simple. Everyone has their own pet peeves, is offended by something trivial and has the right to express that just as you have the right to not be bothered by it. They don’t have to sit quiet and take it and if what they want doesn’t affect you, why are you fighting against it?